Is There Hope for Your Marriage After Sexual Betrayal?
August 14, 2018
It was a rainy afternoon when Tammy got the call. The call that would forever change her life.
Her husband needed her to come bail him out of jail—for soliciting a prostitute!
“I’ll be there,” she squeaked into the phone while her heart filled with fear. Could this really be happening?
As Tammy and her husband sat in the car after the paperwork was done, her husband confessed his ongoing struggle: years of pornography, strip clubs, and eventually prostitutes.
She was filled with shame and dread as she listened in shock. Sure, things hadn’t been great in their marriage, but how had things gotten so bad? How could God have allowed this to happen?
After her husband confessed everything, Tammy knew she had to make some decisions, but she felt paralyzed.
“I wanted to go to bed and never wake up,” she said. “Waves of pain washed over me, and I felt powerless to avoid them. It took every ounce of will to put food in my mouth. My weight dropped, and I felt exhausted.”
She sank lower and lower into depression and shame. “After all, isn’t this my fault?” she asked herself again and again. The next few weeks were a blur—pay to get the car out of impound, find a lawyer, get tested for STDs, meet with the pastor . . .
But in the midst of such darkness, something told Tammy to hold on and keep listening for God’s voice. One day, she decided to crack open the Bible she got in college. It was in the pages of the Psalms that she drew strength from God’s loving words to start trying to climb out of her emotional pit. It was the first step of a long journey toward hope and healing.
Do you find yourself in a similar situation, wondering how there can be hope after such a deep betrayal?
The journey to healing isn’t easy or short, but you can start today. If you find yourself in a hopeless situation, speak these truths aloud to yourself and let them penetrate your dark place:
1. There is pain.
2. There is hope.
3. It’s not my fault.
4. I am never alone.
5. I can place my entire situation in God’s hands. God provides strength and hope even in the darkest of places.
2. There is hope.
3. It’s not my fault.
4. I am never alone.
5. I can place my entire situation in God’s hands. God provides strength and hope even in the darkest of places.
Tammy’s story is just one of many shared in my book, Hope After Betrayal. In this raw resource, I share my story as well as provide reassuring counsel and wise Scripture-based direction. I have helped countless readers through the steps to recovery—and I show how you can follow that same path out of the darkness.
Hope After Betrayal
Revised and Expanded Edition
Revised and Expanded Edition
Meg Wilson watched her world fall apart when her husband confessed to years of sexual addiction. She has intimate knowledge of the devastation that follows--and she has come through the other side.
This newly revised and expanded edition includes new lessons Meg has learned over the last decade. A compelling final chapter by Meg's husband sheds further light on the difficult road to healing from sexual addiction, and a thoughtful new appendix addresses the effect sexual addiction has on children in the home.
This newly revised and expanded edition includes new lessons Meg has learned over the last decade. A compelling final chapter by Meg's husband sheds further light on the difficult road to healing from sexual addiction, and a thoughtful new appendix addresses the effect sexual addiction has on children in the home.
This newly revised and expanded edition includes new lessons I have learned over the last decade as well as a final chapter from my husband.
Start your journey toward hope and healing for your marriage today!
Meg Wilson
Meg is a regular speaker to women’s groups, Bible studies, and conferences. Eighteen years ago she began leading Healing Heart groups then in 2013 she founded the Hope After Betrayal Ministries to bring help and hope to women whose husbands are caught in the web of sexual addiction. Meg and her husband, Dave, live in Vancouver, Washington.
